Saying NO… Sounds easy, but is one of the hardest things to do as GUILT will try to back you down every time you try to take a stand. You also need to learn to say NO to GUILT.
Here is a video by Lady Gag a revealing how she finally had the courage to say no to a lot of things that she was doing to please other people, and to make her feel she was worthy and accepted.
It’s interesting the things that pop up on my Facebook time line. Although I have studied the bible and other religions, I’m not a follower of organized religion, in this case, Christianity and so I’m not drawn to bible thumpers and the Church or Jesus saves sales pitch. But this talk interested me and I was curious as to what he had to say. At around the 2:20 min mark he states that the Mark of the Beast is not a physical thing, but rather, it’s the LOVE and TRUTH (NOT religion – my comment) that you carry in your Heart. While those with the Mark of the Beast have unloving INTENT and heartlessness, aka DENIAL.
It makes a lot of sense and was a concept I never considered before. Everyone already has the Mark of the Beast as they live their lives in various forms of denial. Everyone also has choice; whether to carry on living in denial, or, to end ones denials and live in truth. You don’t need to be a Christian or follow any other religion to have a loving Heart. There are part-truths in all religions and one must gleam the wheat from the chaff to feel the meaning of the WORD. Let those that have eyes to see and ears to hear know the truth.
Here is the link to his podcast – The Mark of the Beast 666 Part 1 with Doug Batchelor
While this meme appears to have some good words of advice, it’s flawed for two reasons. The first is blaming outside influences for your problems, and secondly, in denying that the problem may be with you yourself. It’s not small thinking people that are the problem, it’s your own imprints, programs and beliefs that keep you chained and confined to your “small thinking” and limited reality… Let go of them… and you will grow… In reality, you are living in a bubble created by your own imprints, programs and beliefs that you believe are there to serve and protect you… No one is holding you back except you…Food for thought… or not.. 🙂
PS – Also, if (as in the meme) you find yourself surrounded by small thinking people, you need to ask yourself why have you drawn them to you in the first place..Dah!
I found this post on my Facebook timeline. I found this post on my Facebook timeline. It reminded me of the phrase I often use of “bent intent.” Where a person says the right words, but doesn’t have the courage (steam) to put them into action. I liked this story so I’ve copied it from facebook Planet Earth One Frame At A Time
<quote> “Before water generates steam, it must register two hundred and twelve degrees of heat. Two hundred degrees will not do it; two hundred and ten will not do it. The water must boil before it will generate enough steam to move an engine, to run a train. Lukewarm water will not run anything.
A great many people are trying to move their life trains with lukewarm water—or water that is almost boiling—and they are wondering why they are stalled, why they cannot get ahead. They are trying to run a boiler with two hundred or two hundred and ten degrees of heat, and they cannot understand why they do not get anywhere.”
Lukewarmness in his work stands in the same relation to man’s achievement as lukewarm water does to the locomotive boiler. No man can hope to accomplish anything great in this world until he throws his whole soul, flings his force to his whole life, into it.” <end quote>
This is a powerful and profound message. It’s a simple and effective way of cutting through the bullshit of so-called friends, to find the truth of what they really are in your relationship. A simple change in perspective and the whole experience shifts dramatically.
I found this meme that instills the real meaning of FAITH… without the religious overtures and overtones…. like; what faith are you? Do you have faith in Jesus Christ? Do you have faith in our lord. By faith are you saved. Have faith in Allah. etc. etc.. Faith isn’t about a religion or religious belief; it’s the inner strength and courage to keep going to find the truth and love you are looking for in the here and now.
Faith can be blinded by hope. A false hope where one advocates responsibility for their circumstances and hopes things will change with minimum effort or that someone will come and rescue them.
Food for thought… or not.
It’s a sad state of affairs that one can’t express their thoughts and ideas openly and freely. That the individual with new ideas is mocked, ridiculed and attacked because what they say doesn’t fit into the narrow minded programs and beliefs of the brainwashed social mindset.
Unfortunately, most that have this sense of individuality and creative spark are made to feel they are wrong, and that everyone that is against them are right. To stop being attacked and to gain some semblance of social acceptance, they begin to give up on their ideals. Slowly, they are worn down by the hatred of others and their own self-hatred and they become just like the ones that hated them.
The reason for the social mobs attack is based in fear, fear of change, and the disintegration of their reality. They fear what they do not know. Others that know what the change will bring fear a loss of power and control and so they fight to maintain the status quo.
Use failure as stepping stones. You need to know what does NOT work in order to know what does. Like riding a bike. You need to try new things and FAIL, (fall down) in order to learn what you did wrong, that you will not do the next time. If you keep falling and doing the same thing over and over, then know you are not THINKING and looking for the cause of your failure. And no. it’s NOT the bike or the road you are on, or anything else you might want to blame.
This is a good example of a closed and indoctrinated religious mind. While this is muslin against an atheist, it really doesn’t matter what idea, belief or religion the other person has, if it’s not theirs, then it is wrong and bad, as it’s NOT THEIR BELIEF. To justify their Belief System (BS) they attack the other person’s idea or belief proclaiming they need to find help or redemption. Of course you know that organized religions are just another arm of the establishment, (The Beast) and a means to control others that accept their word as truth, that then gives them the power to control their minds and in turn, their body and actions.
It really doesn’t matter what the topic or subject is, if it goes against the other persons closed mind and “strong” BS, it will be rejected and ridiculed.
It’s interesting how these meme’s pop up on my Facebook time line. Gaslighting ties in with my previous post on Cognitive Dissonance, except there’s a reversal with a more assertive approach to get you to deny your truth and accept their version.
I had posted this topic before Says 318 – Cognitive Dissonance & Misinformation but I didn’t realize until this morning that cognitive dissonance is so persuasive and in control of our society. Initially, I related it with politics and religion, but it is far more insidious than that as its vile tentacles reach into the very core and heart of our being.
Cognitive dissonance is when you’re basically an honest and loving person, and you know the truth and the difference between right and wrong, but have now changed to the opposite polarity, that of denial and unlovingness. Where this gets twisted and unloving is when one has been coerced, either though monetary gain, indoctrinated, or is just innocently willing to help another that seems to be in trouble to tell a lie, or a little white lie as it’s sometimes called. They tell the lie and then repeat it enough times and soon enough they begin to believe the lie is the truth. If asked, they will have either forgotten their own truth, or they choose deny it. They have been corrupted into being in denial and living a lie, and even worse, they are oblivious to that fact and will defiantly state otherwise.
Now getting down to the nitty gritty. Like I said, I originally equated it with politics and religion, but it is everywhere in society. Military, police, lawyers, judges, financial institutions, media, education, science, technology, industry, food, water, medical, doctors, pharmaceuticals, energy, transportation, etc.. Basically, anyone that is in the “work force” is living a lie. They are told how to do things if they want to keep their job, and even though they know that what they are doing is wrong, a lie and unloving, they still do it and will defend their actions, even if their only reason for doing so is that they are just, “doing their job and following orders.” So when you spend so much of your time “living a lie,” is it any wonder you can’t make the changes you would like in your life, without a major shift in your consciousness that is terrifying, as it goes against everything that you believe to be true.
While on the “surface” this seems like an OK meme – BUT – when you really feel and think into it, it’s twisted. Yes, it has a part-truth in it, and that is how “they” set you up for the rest. I say set up as it was either done intentionally, or, the person is just presently ignorant as to what love is, and has the belief that it needs to include other words to give it meaning (which is love, but love with conditions) which isn’t what he/she was talking about.
Let me explain. Three of these words are really meaningless. If a person knows and feels what real love is, by real, I mean unconditional, and NO, you don’t have to die and go to heaven to experience unconditional love, and NO, your dog doesn’t give you unconditional love either. You can experience here on Earth if you just stop bull-shitting yourself and denying what you are really feeling and be real, honest and truthful and have respect for your soulful expression.
OK, I digressed . LOL – The only important word is LOVE. If you have love in whatever or with whoever you are experiencing, then honesty, truth and respect are a natural given, as those are an intrinsic part of what Unconditional love (without conditions) is. You don’t have to go and demand respect, honesty and truth, if real love is present.
Anyway, Food for thought – or not. 🙂
Saysame.com – Feeling different
Admit it. You think and feel different. You feel you don’t fit into society. You feel lost and alone. You feel like the little match girl, always on the outside looking in. You want to be like them, but you know you aren’t like them, not even close. You may dress like them, listen to the same music, watch the same TV shows, go to the same movies or clubs, do the same things they do, but at the same time, you know and feel this is not for you. The more you try to fit in and belong, the more you feel alone and like an outsider, watching the so-called “normal people” go about their robotic existence they call life. Even our customary greeting of, “How are you?” and the generic reply, “Fine, and you?” feels fake and phony, not real. You’re confused and wonder why this is happening to you. Why are you different?
Face it. You want to be your real self, yet you’re afraid to show it for fear of being rejected or even attacked like you have been in the past. You want to talk to the man or woman in the grocery store or in the mall, but you hesitate because they are strangers, and so you and deny and just walk on by. But consider this, what if the man or woman wanted to talk to you but felt the same way you do. So in that moment, both missed an opportunity to connect with another that feels and thinks alike, and so you both stay in your little box, feeling shut out from the world you desire to be a part of. It isn’t about the other person, it’s all about you. They may not respond to you the way you hoped, but that doesn’t matter. What matters is that you made the effort to go out of your comfort zone: to end your denials and love yourself enough to dare to be real and authentic. You will never know unless you try and unless you try, you will never know. Who knows what doors you may open by taking a chance on a conversation you intuitively feel you need to begin. Everyone carries a piece of the puzzle and everyone that comes into your life, does so for a reason. Trust your intuition, take a risk, expect the unexpected. See what magic the universe has in store for you.
So what is wrong with this advice?
What’s wrong is that it states that self-sacrifice is love. While there is a part-truth in that the person attacking you may be hurt and suffering, that’s no reason to allow them to control and manipulate you. There is no need to punish them, only to stand your ground and make it clear that you do not accept their abuse and will not tolerate it. Open a dialogue and help them help themselves. If they deny and don’t want to discuss it, let them go. If you allow this, then it is YOU that needs help.
Here is another version of the same problem. Where someone is treating you badly, but you have this denied superiority judgment on what you believe is love; that just because they are treating you badly, YOU will not stoop to their level and do what you consider to be bad to them. It’s the unseen role of denial and judgments that keeps you in the endless cycle if abuse.
We have been so accustomed to the social Matrix we live in and under, that we take it as natural and real. Yet you wonder why things are the way they are . We naively believe that we are what society says we are, when in truth, we have yet to discover who we truly are and to follow and live our destiny path.It’s time to let go of the imprints, programs and beliefs that control and limit the expression of who we really are.
I‘ve known for years that there is bullshit going on in Society, but until it smacks you in the face PERSONALLY it seems unreal and distant, like a story you heard others repeat. The Insurance companies, doctors, medical experts, government, police, lawyers, etc., that I‘ve had to recently deal with, have really hit this issue home. How CORRUPT the SYSTEM really is and how much denial is present in everyday interactions with these Denial Spirits or love Spirits in denial.
They are everywhere and the people you TRUST, that you have been told and believe they are there for you – AREN’T. They are there for themselves, either with greed to get as much power and gelt as they can, or they are just following orders and doing their job to get money to survive. Either way, they aren’t being honest and real and are just putting on an ACT that may have some part-truths, but only enough to get you to trust THEM and doubt yourself, and in that they have power over you. Of course, now I’m speaking up and calling bullshit when I see and smell it, and guess what happens? NOTHING! They either don’t comment or reply, or they change the subject. This latest exchange is with the person that represents me as a so-called lawyer and legal advisor. I won’t say too much as those that know, know what I mean, and those that don’t. – well – keep on guessing. LOL
The Power of Love vs the love of power
No longer obeying and playing by the rules, doesn’t mean that one needs to physically revolt and fight those in a position of power; unless that is what you think/feel is necessary. To truly oppose those in a position of power, you need to realize that their power is derived from your, and societies, denials and belief that you are compelled to obey the laws that they have set forth as truth, and willingly accept that they have authority over your sovereign being. It’s your beliefs, judgments, fear and denials that give them the power to do what they have been, and are doing.
But, there is always the proverbial but, you can’t change the outer reality until you change your inner reality, and that means letting go of your old beliefs and judgments and also ending your denials of expressing yourself when you feel you are being controlled and manipulated. All this is the OPPOSITE of what you have been doing and that is where the POWER of LOVE comes into play. Those that have a LOVE of POWER fear the POWER of LOVE, as it means that they now have no power over you as you are not giving it to them by way of your denials. Ending your denials ends their source of power. The power of love (self-love) overcomes the love of power. Simple, but if it were that simple the world would not be in the state it is. Talking the talk is easy, but walking the talk isn’t, as it goes against everything that you believe is true, and it’s also something that you have never done before so you don’t know if it works or not.
Know that most people are denial spirits or spirits in denial, and so the truth will feel like hatred to them. They will use any means to get you to deny expressing your truth as they need you to be in denial so that they can continue to have power over you. Some of the techniques they will use are intimidation, interrogation, oh poor me, withdrawal, guilt and shame. If you still have any issues with others using these tactics on you, then you still have some inner work to do before you are ready to test it in your outer reality.
The New World Order
I modified this image and added the text a few years ago as part of my attempt to try to put some of the pieces of the puzzle together. Don’t get me wrong in quoting the bible, as I’m not religious by any means, it’s just a couple of verses that stuck with me.
The reason I’m posting this now is that almost three years ago, I had a car accident, where a woman ran a red light and I broadsided her. My SUV was totaled. I didn’t have any broken bones, but suffered hearing loss, TMJ, whiplash, soft tissue damage and lower back injuries.
Anyway, I got a letter from my lawyer, notifying me of a “Discovery” meeting regarding the tort claim. He submitted a couple pages of what to expect at this meeting. The process starts with a swearing in to tell the truth, and that activated my issues with so-called “authority,” figures that have immunity, privilege, and entitlement, and are not governed by the same rules that the rest of us are supposed to follow and OBEY.
It brought up all that is wrong with this world; the denial spirits that run it and all those Order Followers who are “just doing their job” that are part of the system. When I look at all those involved in the system, (the BEAST) it’s no wonder that I feel overwhelmed and that the Earth is in the shape it’s in.
Why this is activating me is because it will be me against the system. By that, I mean that it will be my opportunity to heal a lot of issues including expressing my feelings and emotions, and challenging old imprints, programs and beliefs, that I know they will try to suppress and deny. Speaking my truth and “walking my talk” in the presence of those that will try every trick to manipulate and control me is terrifying. A few years ago I had the unpleasant court experience where I discovered first hand, the power of denial. Now it will be an opportunity to see if I will repeat, or, witness the power of love.
EXACTLY the OPPOSITE of what this meme says is true. If you have feelings that something is not right, TRUST your intuition and give yourself the benefit of the doubt. Ask questions to clear the air and you will soon find out if your feelings were wrong.
As long as you have attachments to another person, you will continue to sacrifice yourself to make them happy. Instead, find the inner reasons of why you are afraid to be alone and why you think / feel you NEED them.
It’s not really about what is being said, but what is not being said. I could give you a list of judgments and denials, but I feel it’s important that one should become aware of the hidden language within our words. – Food for thought – or not
I find it interesting that a few of the New Agers and RUOW people I know are turning toward organized religion. I don’t mean in an exploratory way, I mean getting right into the Christian saved and born again bible thumpers, or into Hinduism, Buddhism, or Muslim religions with a gung ho attitude that they’ve finally found their community, a sense of commonality, and their calling. I feel they were searching for a common thread that would unite them with other like minded / feeling people where everyone had a so-called “positive” attitude and supported one another. A community where they would feel loved, wanted, and protected, and not alone, unwanted, or in fear of being attacked. Once your Spirit is broken and you have given in to the outer reflection that you are powerless, your mind no longer challenges or searches for answers, but blindly accepts what it is told as the truth. You become part of the flock with herd mentality.
On the other hand, I’m also witnessing some friends and family members that were “born again,” saved, church going, praying, and gospel singing Christians that have lost their “faith” in their church (aka religion) and are trying to come to terms with that. I feel these people have a better chance of healing and empowering themselves, as now they are unsure of their beliefs about what love and life are all about and are willing to question what they previously called truth.
Overall, even if you are not a devoutly religious person, (including atheists and agnostics) there is this social “religious” mindset that while it may not be obvious, has a sinister undercurrent that dictates social morals and behavior. Until one is able to let go of their religious beliefs they will be controlled by them and will also try to control others around them, thus creating conflict. They try to solve the conflict by either changing the rules or adding new and improved ones hoping that it will create peace and that things in their life will change for the better. Besides letting go of one’s religious imprints, programs and beliefs, one needs to explore and let go of, or change the social imprints and programs that are embedded in their mind that unconsciously control one’s thoughts, words and deeds. Politics, government, education, media, police and the military are but a few major players that dictate social experience and reality.
I was watching the movie “King Arthur – Legend of the Sword,” and a comment by the present king piqued my interest. I can’t remember the exact words, but they were along the lines that he thrives on another’s fear; that even though they may hate him, it feeds him energy and power. Another comment was, “You have to break his old self completely, wear him down.”
Later, I thought about the comment and the people that feed off your fears and control you and have power over you, can only do so as long as you are denying the fear that they are activating. Say you have a fear (terror) of confrontation, then they will use whatever they can to activate your fear, be it mental, emotional, physical, or any combination thereof. Anything that threatens you; that you are afraid to face or challenge, will and can over-power and control you.
The other things people use to control and over-power you is guilt and shame. They make you think, feel, and believe that your words or actions are wrong and even hurtful to the one that is trying to control you. They are using your minds twisted beliefs of what love is, what is right and wrong, along with your false emotions that are aligned with your minds beliefs to get you to re-act in the way they want you to.
In order to activate you into your denied issues and fear (terror) as a means to control and over-power you, there are four basic tactics that others use. They are the intimidator, the interrogator, the “oh poor me,” and the aloft or withdrawn approach. If one tactic doesn’t work they will try another until they wear you down and break you, and you re-act in one of three different ways according to your imprinting and programming. You either fight, (that you can’t win) run, or you just give in to their demands to stop the conflict. In doing any of these you give them your power.