Denied anger and rage is the most common form of expression. The anger and rage that is easily identified is where there are verbal threats and/or physical violence. What is harder to identify is when it’s disguised as passive aggressive, where they “act” loving, kind and nice, but underneath it all is their wanting to manipulate and control you. For an empaths that feels the unlovingness, what they need to do, but what is also one of the hardest things to do, is to give yourself the benefit of the doubt by asking the person, “What is your intent?” Doing that clears the air and their control over you. Narcissists are great ones at using passive aggressive techniques.
As an empath, part of your fear and terror is that you are unloved, rejected, threatened and attacked, just to name a few issues. Those that are attacking you might be physically aggressive or passive aggressive. Their attack is two-fold. One is to have you activated into your denied fear so that they can manipulate and control you so that they can feed on the love energy that you are denying. And the second reason is that as long as you are in denial and fear their disproval and wrath, you will not express the love that you are, as the presence of love terrifies them.
The most common heartbreak for an Empath is the lack of love, of being accepted. Empaths try to fit in, but unbeknownst to them, they’re trying to fit in with people that are not loving. The real problem is that you’re afraid to challenge the unloving people that you are trying to fit in with, that are controlling and manipulating you. Instead, you try to be like them and that doesn’t feel good either.
Society bases ones identity and worth on their vocation and financial status. Becoming aware that this does not define who and what you are, is an important step to self-empowerment.
Empaths forget that they’re a spiritual being having a physical experience and are not what society (the system) identifies them as. By buying into a false identity, like “I am a carpenter” etc, you set yourself up to the belief that what you are experiencing is who you are, and in that, you judge your self-worth by how much money you earn to make a living.
There are many forms of anger and rage. Most of the anger and rage that is expressed is denied anger and rage. While you may be a person of loving essence, when you are in denial, the anger and rage that you express is unloving. You do have loving anger and rage, but the difference between the two is that unloving anger and rage wants to attack and control another, whereas loving anger and rage is there to protect you from unloving anger and rage.
Grief is the feeling of loss, of a person, place or things, There are several aspects involved in grief and heartbreak, the first being shock and disbelief, followed by denial, pain, remorse, guilt, anger, bargaining, and then acceptance. After the initial process, it starts all over again but not in a similar pattern. Underlying heartbreak is an attachment to the person, place or thing that fulfilled you, that gave you pleasure or happiness in some form or another. Attachments are not loving, while having a connection is loving.