Guilt is a presence and is not to be confused with love. Guilt has been in the place of love for eons. All religions are based on guilt. Love and truth does not mind being questioned, but unlovingness, guilt and denial do. Christian beliefs in traditions of Santa Claus and the Easter bunny are lies you tell your children. If you told them the truth, guilt would be on you, telling you that you’re unloving.
Whether you admit it or not; empaths are love starved, they want to be loved and accepted. They are attracted to another person that they feel completes or compliments them. In most cases, they attract a narcissist that isn’t real in their feelings and emotions, but is good at acting the part. Being in denial, is what sets an empath up to give their power away.
My journey is a search for truth, love and the meaning of life. While reading numerous books, and coming across part-truths that felt real, something was always lacking. I was searching for something that would connect them, a common thread. When I was introduced to the first book in the RUOW (Right Use Of Will) series by Ceanne DeRohan, I realized what was missing, what I wasn’t seeing. What was common to everything was denial, and that totally changed my journey.
Examines the New Age movement as another form of religion in that real feelings and emotions are denied, in order to be positive and feel good. Its agenda is also similar to the “mental health” establishment, where they aren’t looking for the cause of one’s so-called “negative” feelings and emotions, but rather address the symptoms with the use of drugs, or cognitive therapy or whatever they can use to make money.
The medical establishment is of no real help to an empath. Psychiatrists and psychologists treat emotions as if they were constructs or aspects of the mind and hence, they use mental based techniques to try to treat emotional issues. Cognitive therapy and having a “positive” attitude and shrugging off (denying) any “so-called” negative feelings and emotions is their solution. If that doesn’t work, they’re quick to either prescribe mind-numbing drugs, or ones that create a high and a false sense of well-being. For true healing, one needs to deal with the mental, emotional and physical issues as they are all connected. Any feelings and emotions that the mind denies, have no place to go except in the body, where they create distress and dis-ease.
Present reality on Earth is actually a dual reality, with loving Essence that desires love, life, truth and freedom, and unloving essence that desires, control, denial, compression and death. It’s this unloving Rage essence that has been, and is, in a position of power, but what is not known is that they are terrified of the power of love, and hence their need to be in control of loving essence. Loving essence tries to be nice to these “otherkin” hoping they will change, and so you have the predator and victim dual reality.
It’s another aspect of “letting go” and releasing ones “attachments’ to the person they feel needs them. When people finally become aware of their circumstances, they need to accept responsibility for their initial choices and deal with the consequences as such. Being in denial, they will try to use the ”oh poor me” tactic to get an empath to do their bidding.
As an empath, you have the innate ability to hear, see and know what others don’t hear, see or know. The other thing is that Empaths want to help others that they see in trouble or about to get into trouble. It’s a frustrating position, and one that is needed in order to “let go” of those that don’t want to see or hear the truth.
When dealing with heartbreak, besides the issue of attachment is one of expectation, and projections. Your point of power is in the present moment, but if your consciousness is in the past, lamenting about what you lost, or projecting into the future and lost hopes, dreams and desire, what you could have had what you expected. Life is a journey, like a river flowing where time and space are moving. What you experience in one moment is not the same, as in the next moment as time and space have moved on, and you can’t go back. Since birth, we have been taught and programmed to believe that our happiness and self-worth depends on people, place and things. When they are taken away, we feel lost and heartbroken.
Besides fear of physical people, places and things, empaths also have fear of non-physical things, one being the word, authority. It begins with our parents, siblings, relatives, friends and moves out for there. Using the present Covid plan-demic as an example of how the government, medical and media use the words “authority” and “expert” as a tool to create the illusion that they have power over those that buy into their fear-mongering tactics, that manipulate herd mentality to follow their dictates.
When people are activated into their issues, they go into denial and re-act by either going into a fight, flight or give up mode. If your imprint is to fight, as soon as you’re activated, your denied anger and rage will be triggered. Hidden under your denied anger and rage is your denied terror; what you are afraid of that triggered you. For an empath, a confusing issue is how do you respond to a psychopath coming at you, or a person that you know is loving, but has been activated and is in denied anger and rage.
Betrayal doesn’t just come to you out of the blue. You have doubts and suspicions, but instead of expressing yourself, you deny and carry on hoping that your intuition is wrong. When a feeling of doubt comes up, your mind is consciously aware of the feeling but denies it. The feeling comes up three times in total. When it’s denied expression the third time, like in the game of baseball, you’re out, your mind is in the gap, and it goes on auto-pilot according to its imprints, programs and beliefs. All this happens in the blink of an eye. The key to healing is in spotting and ending one’s denials.
When you were born, you weren’t born with any religious beliefs or traditions; they were taught to you by your parents and others. Religion, like government, is organized. Religion tries to be a substitute for spirituality and as such, has rules and Belief Systems (BS) that they use to control you. When you identify yourself as etc., “I Am a Catholic,” you accept their BS as a part of who you are, and not as something that you are experiencing.
I begin to explain how the government, through your birth certificate that your parents felt obliged to submit to the government, controls you. Your birth name ie, “Jane Doe”, appears on all government documents as “JANE DOE.” The Government is a fictitious entity, an artificial construct and not a person. The secret to the success in being society controllers, is that they have made you believe that Jane Doe is JANE DOE, and that you have to comply to their rules and mandates.
Denied anger and rage is the most common form of expression. The anger and rage that is easily identified is where there are verbal threats and/or physical violence. What is harder to identify is when it’s disguised as passive aggressive, where they “act” loving, kind and nice, but underneath it all is their wanting to manipulate and control you. For an empaths that feels the unlovingness, what they need to do, but what is also one of the hardest things to do, is to give yourself the benefit of the doubt by asking the person, “What is your intent?” Doing that clears the air and their control over you. Narcissists are great ones at using passive aggressive techniques.
As an empath, part of your fear and terror is that you are unloved, rejected, threatened and attacked, just to name a few issues. Those that are attacking you might be physically aggressive or passive aggressive. Their attack is two-fold. One is to have you activated into your denied fear so that they can manipulate and control you so that they can feed on the love energy that you are denying. And the second reason is that as long as you are in denial and fear their disproval and wrath, you will not express the love that you are, as the presence of love terrifies them.
The most common heartbreak for an Empath is the lack of love, of being accepted. Empaths try to fit in, but unbeknownst to them, they’re trying to fit in with people that are not loving. The real problem is that you’re afraid to challenge the unloving people that you are trying to fit in with, that are controlling and manipulating you. Instead, you try to be like them and that doesn’t feel good either.
Society bases ones identity and worth on their vocation and financial status. Becoming aware that this does not define who and what you are, is an important step to self-empowerment.
Empaths forget that they’re a spiritual being having a physical experience and are not what society (the system) identifies them as. By buying into a false identity, like “I am a carpenter” etc, you set yourself up to the belief that what you are experiencing is who you are, and in that, you judge your self-worth by how much money you earn to make a living.
There are many forms of anger and rage. Most of the anger and rage that is expressed is denied anger and rage. While you may be a person of loving essence, when you are in denial, the anger and rage that you express is unloving. You do have loving anger and rage, but the difference between the two is that unloving anger and rage wants to attack and control another, whereas loving anger and rage is there to protect you from unloving anger and rage.
Just an intro to a HUGE topic, and one that Empaths can relate to.
A common trait of empaths is that they go through life putting other peoples feelings and needs ahead of theirs in order to make them happy, believing that that makes them a kind and loving person.
SV -104F – Fear of Water (2) is an addition to the previous video SV-103F. I’m finding it difficult to cover all that I want to say, as I could write a book just on fear… The other thing is that fear and terror are not stand-alone issues, as there is also anger and rage and heartbreak issues involved, as real healing is a multi-layered process. And even if you may deal with the combination, that’s not to say there is more that needs to be resolved at a later time and place.
When one has a fear of say, “water,” water is not the problem. The problem is the unresolved traumatic “experience” that you had with water. How you heal the fear is to have an experience that will shock and activate you. When that happens, if you can have the awareness that it isn’t the “same” experience that traumatized you, that it’s an opportunity for you to re-live that shocking moment and feel and express everything that was denied, healing can happen. Later, you will have another experience with water, but this time you will have the awareness that you are not “re-acting,” but are “responding” to the experience.
In this video, I discuss fear and its many forms, in particular, fear of water. I created a “Table of Contents” on my website shenreed.com where you can also get more information on my blogs, books and these videos. You can also clink on Vlogs in the menu.
Fear is like a door, behind which are lost parts of your emotional being. Most fears can be traced back to an unresolved traumatic experience, where you denied and suppressed the feelings and emotion you were having in the moment. Later, and until the issue is resolved, avoiding facing your fear creates anxiety and also limits your and others life experiences. Opening the door takes love and courage and with that intent, healing is possible.
To heal and empower yourself, you have to be willing to do what you’ve never done before, and includes doing the opposite of what you have been doing. You need to challenge everything you believe to be true, especially about love, life and your feelings and emotions. Intent has to be real and heartfelt, or it’s just an act.
SV-102G Intent to Heal – is my second Vlog dealing with the Empath’s dilemma. I created a “Table of Contents” on my website shenreed.com where you can also get more information on my blogs, books and these videos.
My name is John Rieger but I also go by my pen name, Shenreed. I’m an empath, so I know what an empath goes through. Years ago, when my personal and small business world collapsed, I became frustrated with my life and traditional dogma and began my spiritual journey, my search for truth, love, and the meaning of life.
My metaphysical journey is an eclectic blend of science and spirituality. where I’n both the observer and the subject, and when I think I have a solution, I submerge myself in the experience to know if my hypothesis is accurate and valid. After years of trial and error, I discovered that my so-called negative feelings and emotions were not the cause of my problems and issues, or my flaws or weakness, but were my power, and were directly related to my denials of them. The problem with denial was that my problems and issues were being reflected to me. When I ended my denials and replaced self-hatred with self-love, my reality shifted. I was excited to share the tools and insights I experienced and subsequently wrote and published three books, as well as creating my website and blogging.
The intent of these vlogs is to help other empaths understand and heal their emotions and issues and to empower themselves. While we all have different experiences, the so-called “negative emotions” are universal. Some of the issues empaths have are that they believe they have to control their feelings and emotions to make others happy an be accepted. They are also targeted by unloving Narcissists using gaslighting techniques to manipulate and control them
Modern medicines “mental health” approach is of no use to an empath. The approach they use is basically cognitive therapy to maintain a “positive” attitude and failing that, they put you on prescription drugs. With no real help, empaths turn to food, alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, work, exercise, pets, hobbies, religion, etc, to help them cope with their reality.
Empaths have gifts and talents and by far, the most important one is the ability to feel the presence of loving and unloving energy. They also have the ability to feel what another person is experiencing and feeling, and often take on these emotions and then feel drained. They also possess psychic abilities like clairvoyance, clairaudience, etc., but fear to share them.
These are just some of the issues and topics I’ll be addressing in my vlogs that I hope will serve as an inspiration and a self-help tutorial to enable Empaths to begin to understand and heal and empower themselves. I plan to host them on YouTube and BiitChute and my websites. For quick reference, they will have a title and an ID number. I also plan on making them from 3-5 minutes in length, as I’d like them to be more of a “food for thought” tutorial where you need to begin to put the pieces of the puzzle together for yourself.
Well, it’s taken me a while, but I finally did it. This is my first Vlog and making the video was, and is, a learning curve, so forgive any amateurishness. The videos are going to be a replacement for the fourth book, “The Empath’s Dilemma” that I was going to write 7 years ago, but never did for multiple reasons. I’ll be creating a Table of Contents on my website shenreed.com where you can also get more information on these videos.