Says 102 – More issues coming up.

2012 Oct 04 I had previously noticed a toothbrush and a tube of toothpaste on the kitchen window above the sink, and this morning as I was eating breakfast at the kitchen counter, Paul was brushing his teeth in the kitchen sink. I made the comment that living here was like living in a cabin in the bush, one bowl for everything. After a brief discussion, he said that he doesn’t like brushing his teeth in the bathroom sinks as he doesn’t like to clean up afterwards. I commented, so, you rather make a mess in the kitchen sink where we prepare our food and wash our dishes. He thought for a moment and said that he would not do it anymore if it upset me, which I said it did.

Paul has a large orange translucent sink in the bathroom upstairs, but that’s it. There is no cabinetry hiding the rough plumbing job and the sink is actually 3-4 inches too high for it to be comfortable unless you are over six feet tall and he is my height. The sink is about 4 feet wide, and 3.5 feet of that is the actual basin of the sink so there is very little counter space. There is a matching mirror on the wall, but that is all there is, there is no bathroom cabinet so everything just has to lay on the limited flat surface of the sink, or on the toilet tank. The bathroom on the main level has a clear glass sink and again there are no cabinets to store anything. It’s all for presentation and not functional. I said, it looks nice but they are basically useless.

While I was at it, I went over to the cutlery drawer and pulled out a disgusting can-opener and showed it to him. I asked him why it was in the drawer along with clean utensils. It was disgusting as it was rusty and caked with old and rotten food. He said that he didn’t use it, that he used the new one. I said that’s great, but why keep it in the drawer with the new one and the other kitchen utensils when it should be in the garbage. He took it and threw it in the garbage can under the sink. With that, I said that was my bitching for the day. He laughed it off as he went out the door to go to work. PS: The picture of the can opener is the actual one…

I also realized that the actions of Paul and his friend last night remind me of high school and my trying to hang out with assholes like them that just want to get drunk and fucked. I had issues with them back then and it’s back in my face again. Hummmm?

Says 68 – Tenants internet off and on – Tennant cleaning up after others – Owner asks me when I was leaving

July 21 A couple of days ago, the woman that has a room down the hallway from me, asked if the internet was working. I checked my computer and told her it was. She asked me again yesterday and said she just couldn’t figure out what the problem was as it was working fine and she never made any changes. Today she came to my room and told that this morning she ran her Windows internet repair program and it came back saying that she had been manually discounted. She said she went downstairs and raised hell, saying that she wanted to be re-hooked up instantly. She didn’t go into all the details, but suffice to say, her internet is now working. More owner hanky-panky.

I went to make breakfast this morning and found the youngest tenant cleaning the kitchen. He had already cleaned the bathroom and was now half way though cleaning the kitchen. I asked him why he was cleaning and he said that if he didn’t do it, nobody would. I said that I clean up after myself and I expect others to do the same. I know you do, so that only leaves a couple of people that are the problem. I said that if you keep cleaning up after them instead of confronting them, then they will just be happy to let you continue to be their mother and clean up after them. I said I’ve purposely let it get dirty as I wanted to make a point and confront them, but now that you have destroyed the evidence, there is nothing I can do. I told him how I got fed up with the dishes being left in the kitchen sink and how I removed them and put them and put them on a bottom shelf. After a couple of times he got the message and as you have noticed, there are no more dirty dishes in the kitchen sink.

I said some people are stupid and don’t know any better and if you stop to educate them, they will learn and change their ways. Other people only pretend to be stupid, not notice, or admit they can’t do certain things, but when asked if they want to learn, they quickly find some excuse as they have no intent to clean up after themselves as they are too happy letting others do it for them. It’s then that you need to take a stand and stop enabling them by doing it for them. In both case, if nothing is said and if you don’t make a stand to stop abusing yourself by doing it for them, then nothing changes and you will continue to be the victim.

He disagreed and then got upset when I mentioned that he could remove the stove knobs, instead of trying to clean under them like he was doing. He said, I know! Do you think I’m a child? With that outburst, he left without finishing what he had started. It’s not the first time we have had an exchange and he has left, but later, after thinking about it, he has always come around.

Later the owner was up to see me today and asked me when I was leaving. I said I had no immediate plans to leave. We had a little chat and for now, things appear to be quiet. I’m looking for another place but there is nothing new that is suitable. They are either looking for students or females only, or its smoking, or it’s just a repeat of one that I have seen and am not interested in, and it appears, neither are others.